But why should they? It’s usually not really their system!

We get upset when kids don’t use the systems we put in place for them. And so she’s getting in trouble for not using the planner, when in truth she’d do great checking in with a homework-buddy or taking a photo of the assignment on the board, or… you get the idea. More than likely, no one ever talked with her about what else she might try besides a planner. But the real challenge actually has not been discussed - that the child needs an effective way to capture her homework assignments each day. But what if it’s not a great fit for your child? When the child does not come home with all of her assignments written somewhat legibly in the book, she gets in trouble - either at home or at school. Very often, parents put in place solutions before getting really clear about the real problem they’re trying to address.įor example, a parent or school might decide that all students need to use a planner. Perhaps he has not bought in because it’s not his plan or he’s afraid he can’t do it or he wants to do it another way or he just doesn’t see why he needs to do homework at all! The real problem is not yet clear, and therefore even the best homework plan may not be the right solution to address the underlying problem. It just means that there’s probably something else going on that is a more pressing problem.

That doesn’t necessarily mean your son doesn’t want to use the plan, though, or that he won’t in the future. So if kids are having meltdowns and refusing to do homework, it is more than likely that they have not actually bought into the plan. Homework is complicated - for kids and adults - for very different reasons! While you may have a homework plan to which your kids have agreed in theory, a plan is only as good as a child’s ownership of it. I know homework is tougher for students with attention deficit disorder ( ADHD or ADD) and some accommodations may be appropriate, but how do we move forward when my child’s reaction is so strong and so negative every single time homework comes up?” I’m exhausted by these daily battles and my child’s grades are suffering. Q: “Though we have a homework plan and agreed-upon schedule, when the time comes to get started my child has an epic meltdown - yelling, slamming doors, refusing to do the work.

He do his homework at the moment